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However you make your decisions, trust that something good will come of them.

Change your life: There’s no such thing as a ‘wrong’ decision

11 March, 2014

For all those who have a hard time making decisions – this is for you…

In her excellent book, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway“, Susan Jeffers points out that when we have a decision to make, we tend to look at it in terms of making either a ‘right’ choice or a ‘wrong’ choice. As a result, we find ourselves paralysed by being too scared of making the wrong decision.

Her suggestion is that we change our perspective and consider BOTH choices as being right.

“Come to the edge,” he said. They said, “We are afraid.” “Come to the edge,” he said. They came. He pushed them … and they flew. — Guillaume Appollinaire

She calls it the ‘No-Lose Model’ and this perspective can really open one up to the possibilities of choices – rather than feeling restricted by them.

I know the feeling of being paralysed by indecision only too well. Several years ago I was absolutely incapable of making a decision as to whether or not to end a long-term relationship.

Without the benefit of a crystal ball, I was so scared of making the ‘wrong’ decision that I literally couldn’t move. In the end I did make the choice to end the relationship, and within three months had met the wonderful man that I now share my life with.

The point is, that even if I hadn’t experienced this admittedly fairy-tale ending, I know that lots of other opportunities would have come my way, and – as Jeffers emphasises – I would have been able to deal with any of them.



  • Annabel Sutton is a Professional Certified Coach and Author.  She has lived in Los Angeles and Indonesia; survived earthquakes and riots, lived with head-hunters and enjoyed a portfolio career.  She now enjoys a somewhat quieter life in Somerset!  Her latest book, 52 Ways to Transform Your Life (Weekly Wisdom for Busy People), contains 52 inspiring, quick-to-read life tips and is available from . Find more information at